Single Yet Very Happy


Here is the truth. I am a 20-year-old girl who has never been kissed and never been in a relationship.


I ask myself a lot:

Do I need a boyfriend?

Do I look insecure if I don’t have a boyfriend?

Should I go on dating apps?

What if no one likes me on dating apps?

What if I’m not beautiful enough?




Question time

Does society make us think that we NEED to be in a relationship? I do believe that we are pressured by society and by our friends and family. I always love going to family dinners and being asked: “So do you have a boyfriend?” and then I do the awkward “No, I don’t have one”. Of course, I want a boyfriend. I want the relationship. I want to have those boyfriend and girlfriend adventures. I want the 2am chats. The happiness and the connection.

Though I do think I am too interested in the idea of having a boyfriend that I actually lose sight of the real and beautiful reason to be in a relationship. Being in a relationship should not be a trophy. It is not something to be flaunted around just because of the fact that you are in one. And that is definitely not how I want to think. Being in a relationship should be about the connection you share with someone. The beauty and love of sharing your life with them.

I am a very romantic girl. I am all about the flowers, the handholding, the dinners and the watching movies together. I look forward to the day I get to do this with someone. But everything takes time and I will not rush into a relationship just for the status. I will wait for the certain person to share this with.

If anyone ever asks me why I am not in a relationship, my answer to them will be “I am perfectly okay with being single, yeah I do dream about being in a relationship, but I am not going to rush into a relationship just for the fun of it. There will come a day when I meet someone and we will be getting together for all the right and natural reasons”.


I will enjoy being single, enjoying the freedom that comes with it. I know one day I will find someone but for now, I am a 20-year-old single lady who is totally fine with her relationship status.

Don’t rush things. Either in a relationship, with work, with yourself or with life. Everything has a time and purpose to how its suppose to happen.



Rose xo

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  1. I’m almost 20 and haven’t been in a relationship either and I relate to a lot of this! I totally agree with you that it’s not worth a relationship for the status. Although at times it’s difficult watching everyone else find someone, I’d rather wait for the right person too!
    I actually think that there are a lot of people out there like us but we never realise it because we only hear about it when people are in relationships rather than when they’re not. It’s great that you and some others are speaking out about it!

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  2. I’m 22 (almost 23) and have never been in a relationship. The older you get, the more pressure you feel from people who love and know you because they see how great you are, so why aren’t you being pursued by someone?! I started to fall into all of the pressure from my family and friends for a while and was miserable trying to make things work with random people I would meet on dating apps. You said it 100% correct, a relationship isn’t a trophy, a relationship is work! It takes two people making a commitment every day, and thats not something anyone should rush! sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders, you keep doing you and everything will fall into place one day!

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