Here is the truth. I am a 20-year-old girl who has never been kissed and never been in a relationship.
I ask myself a lot:
Do I need a boyfriend?
Do I look insecure if I don’t have a boyfriend?
Should I go on dating apps?
What if no one likes me on dating apps?
What if I’m not beautiful enough?
Does society make us think that we NEED to be in a relationship? I do believe that we are pressured by society and by our friends and family. I always love going to family dinners and being asked: “So do you have a boyfriend?” and then I do the awkward “No, I don’t have one”. Of course, I want a boyfriend. I want the relationship. I want to have those boyfriend and girlfriend adventures. I want the 2am chats. The happiness and the connection.
Though I do think I am too interested in the idea of having a boyfriend that I actually lose sight of the real and beautiful reason to be in a relationship. Being in a relationship should not be a trophy. It is not something to be flaunted around just because of the fact that you are in one. And that is definitely not how I want to think. Being in a relationship should be about the connection you share with someone. The beauty and love of sharing your life with them.
I am a very romantic girl. I am all about the flowers, the handholding, the dinners and the watching movies together. I look forward to the day I get to do this with someone. But everything takes time and I will not rush into a relationship just for the status. I will wait for the certain person to share this with.
If anyone ever asks me why I am not in a relationship, my answer to them will be “I am perfectly okay with being single, yeah I do dream about being in a relationship, but I am not going to rush into a relationship just for the fun of it. There will come a day when I meet someone and we will be getting together for all the right and natural reasons”.
I will enjoy being single, enjoying the freedom that comes with it. I know one day I will find someone but for now, I am a 20-year-old single lady who is totally fine with her relationship status.
Don’t rush things. Either in a relationship, with work, with yourself or with life. Everything has a time and purpose to how its suppose to happen.